One thing that keeps me truthful is strictly self-serving: it takes a lot of effort and energy to maintain a lie! You have to keep your story consistent to avoid being "found out." That's a lot more pressure than simply bearing the pain of a difficult truth up-front!
I also have become good at saying nothing instead of "white-lying." Will the truth be hurtful? If so, I say nothing. Will the truth be helpful? If not, I say nothing. It's easy to get caught up in white lies, things we tell ourselves that make a lie necessary, when simply being silent will take care of things.
I wouldn't say that lying is something we absolutely shouldn't do. Would you lie to save the life of a loved one? If you hear an angry dispute from next door and your neighbour knocks on the door and asks to borrow your axe, should you say, "of course, dear friend", and go fetch it? Plato addresses this, and opines that it is fine to say that you don't have it at the moment.
On another tack, have you considered using the style box to make your subheadings into actual headings instead of merely bolding them? Not only does this help enormously in SEO but
Substack automatically constructs a quick way to move around the story from the headings. Try clicking on the "ladder" of horizontal lines on the left of the screen on one of my articles - or pretty much anyone else's.
Thanks for that tip about subheadings, Britni. And I, of course, agree with you that there is a time for lying and for strategic communication. I just want people to make more conscious choices instead of operating from conditioned fears. I'll check out your Substack!
Thank you for this, Susan!
One thing that keeps me truthful is strictly self-serving: it takes a lot of effort and energy to maintain a lie! You have to keep your story consistent to avoid being "found out." That's a lot more pressure than simply bearing the pain of a difficult truth up-front!
I also have become good at saying nothing instead of "white-lying." Will the truth be hurtful? If so, I say nothing. Will the truth be helpful? If not, I say nothing. It's easy to get caught up in white lies, things we tell ourselves that make a lie necessary, when simply being silent will take care of things.
I wouldn't say that lying is something we absolutely shouldn't do. Would you lie to save the life of a loved one? If you hear an angry dispute from next door and your neighbour knocks on the door and asks to borrow your axe, should you say, "of course, dear friend", and go fetch it? Plato addresses this, and opines that it is fine to say that you don't have it at the moment.
On another tack, have you considered using the style box to make your subheadings into actual headings instead of merely bolding them? Not only does this help enormously in SEO but
Substack automatically constructs a quick way to move around the story from the headings. Try clicking on the "ladder" of horizontal lines on the left of the screen on one of my articles - or pretty much anyone else's.
Britni
Thanks for that tip about subheadings, Britni. And I, of course, agree with you that there is a time for lying and for strategic communication. I just want people to make more conscious choices instead of operating from conditioned fears. I'll check out your Substack!